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Parents
ParentsI really don't understand them. Don't understand what works their clogs. What's in all that grey matter up there.
Look. We're not adults, so don't expect us to think the way you do. We're still growing, right? And we need the space to grow. The space to make mistakes and know what can and cannot be done; what should and should not be done. Fine, some parents think that their children ought to listen to their long speeches and absorb everything and apply accordingly, in this case being life experiences and such. Okay, some teens may obey, some may not. Those who do wonder forever what are the consequences of a certain action that, due to their parents' restrictions, have never found out. They live with that curiosity forever, unfulfilled, unsatisfied. Those who disobey, however, learn the truth the hard way, which may not be a bad thing, depending on how you look at it. They will have to face the music, however 'loud' it is, and are unlikely to commit the same mistake again.
Of course there are parents who do not wish to let their children go through the hard way. All parents want to protect their kids from that harsh world outside. (I suddenly realise this isnt gearing towards what I wanted to say) But think about it. We're already teens; another few years and we'll be exposed anyway. Think we're not mature enough? TRY us. If we're not, then after whatever experience, we'll probably be more mature anyway.
Life is a trial and error process. Dare you to say you never made any mistakes? You might say, "I don't want my child to follow in my footsteps and make the same mistake I did." Okay, fine. Depends on what mistake right? There is no perfect person, much less child. We all make mistakes. Instead of blocking and shielding us from the cruel truths of this world, why don't you just show us and let us get over the initial shock to REACT? RESPOND? I really don't understand. Isn't it better to let us make mistakes and watch from afar than to restrict us to the point where we try out things in secret? (For the record, no, im not doing any bad stuff at the moment. Other than blogging, that is.)
AND when we DO make a mistake because we didnt listen to your 1000000000001th speech on thisandthat, you punish us. I'm not saying that is wrong. It's probably good for us in the long run, or some other weird logic I still can't grasp. Hello. We aren't robots. I understand that in this diverse world, there ARE robotic people who are perfect in every sense. But for most part, we're not. Get that: WE'RE NOT PERFECT. Yes, it IS hard to build trust up. When you lose a person's trust, one tends to get really really upset and hurt, etc.
BUT what if we never misused your trust or made any mistakes(in a particular area)? If YOU were the one accusing us of something we never did, is that being fair to us? Sometimes I think parents are really too much. They shout and scream and scold - and we didn't even do anything wrong. It's the 'post-modern' generation thing I guess. Don't bother to ask questions, just accept things as you see them.
I don't see why parents punish us so harshly for something we never did. NEVER DID, OKAY?! And distrust us to the extent that they keep an eagle's eye on us 24/7, listening and noting all that you do. The moment you're doing something that they don't 'approve' of(eg. writing LETTERS to a friend of the SAME GENDER you ass), BANG you get it. The repeated nagging and scolding. Has it ever occured to you, I wonder, that we DO have the ability to switch off? Maybe you do, that's why you get so angry. Too bad! It's the result of your incessant scolding. Really. For most of the time, it's in one ear and out the other. As if you don't already know that.
All in all:
we are TEENAGERS. No offence meant, but we need our own space. To chill out and reflect/stone/whatever. Don't you need your own space too?
we need space to GROW and mature, if the above wasn't reason enough for you. Hey, we're gonna be adults(however scary a thought that is) in a few years. You'll have to let go then. Get USED to it. We have minds to think, okay?
sometimes, we make mistakes. If it's a really serious mistake, yeah, dole out the punishment. We deserved it, however much we don't want to accept it. If it wasn't such a bad mistake, hey, you could just 'gently' guide us right. Then again, parents probably see this as an outlet to vent their anger. Buy a punchbag won't you?
AND when we DIDN'T do something which you accuse us of, we DON'T deserve that punishment. If you assumed something and didn't verify it in any way, don't blame US 'cos we didn't do anything wrong. I don't see why you have to get all so worked up and accuse and wrong us like that. It hurts in various ways: emotionally, physically(if you're such an ass - no offence - you cane your TEEN)and socially. By cutting off all our 'paths' to the outside world, it affects us socially, believe it or not. Maybe you think: once only, what. OI. If you do this every time you accuse us, isn't that ALOT?
Maybe parents who read this should reflect a bit. Not that any actually do, but there you are.
If the people this is meant for read this, read this: accuse us/her of smth she didnt do, and see if we grow up to resent it/you. wdv. think about it. slp on it. really.